Hidden Facebook Facts
Facebook is constantly changing. One of the biggest issues I have people coming to me for, is their accounts and friend requests. These hidden Facebook facts and tips on adding, deleting, and making new friends are definitely something you should bookmark to come back to again and again!
While Facebook is all about connecting and making friends, friend requests themselves can be very tricky and can get you in trouble with Facebook. If you are wanting to connect with other people who may be potential customers, it’s important to know how to navigate this so you don’t have issues down the road, or get onto Facebook’s “naughty” list. You may not get banned but you can get blocked from adding more friends for a period of time, so it helps to know the rules.
Facebook Basics – Quick Review
All of your pending friend requests show up under this icon on the top right of Facebook.
Clicking on that icon will give you a list of all of your pending “friend” requests as well as a list of people “you may know.”
Click confirm to add a friend or delete to remove the request. The sender won’t be notified.
In order to add a friend, you can search for people, open their profiles, and if they allow friend requests, you can click on the + Add Friend button to the right and underneath their picture.
To cancel a friend request, you can go back to the same button + friend, and select cancel request from the menu.
The other way to remove a friend is to go to their profile and hover over where it says “friends” and select unfriend from the menu or remove them from your friends list. Facebook doesn’t notify them if they are unfriended.
Relationship, Relationship, Relationship
Facebook wants you to only add people that you know in real life, or have some form of personal connection with. If your friend requests frequently are unanswered or if only 1 person reports your request as unwanted, Facebook may decide that you have violated their community standards and could block you from sending friend requests for a period of time.
To avoid getting blocked, you need to do the following:
- make it easy for people to recognize you…in other words, use your photo and real name
- try to only add people who you either know or have mutual Facebook friends with
- send your prospective “friend” a message introducing yourself BEFORE you add them. If it’s possible to view their profile, find common ground to mention when you message them. Let them know that you’re interested in THEM and not just their business.
When adding a “friend” and there isn’t a mutual friend involved, make sure that you don’t try to add to many at
once. Another option is that you can choose to “follow” them rather than “friend” them and it still gives you the ability to see their timeline without sharing yours. And you will also begin to learn about that person and how you can massage a business relationship with them.
Don’t Forget What’s Hidden!
Facebook doesn’t immediately delete friend requests that you choose the “Not Now” option, it just hides the requests. So you will need to go to your friend requests page from time to time and choose to confirm or delete requests. Again, the sender won’t be notified. If you delete a request, Facebook will ask if you know that person outside of Facebook. If you choose no, that person could be penalized and won’t be allowed to send you another request, so keep that in mind. You don’t have to use this option.
You can skip the strangers contacting you altogether by rearranging your friend request settings. From the friend request menu in the top right of Facebook, click settings and friends of friends from the drop down menu.
Alternatively, open privacy shortcuts from the top right by clicking on the down arrow button -> settings -> privacy, expand Who can contact me? and choose Everyone or Friends of Friends under Who can send me friend requests?
In order to review the friends requests YOU have sent, open privacy shortcuts, expand “Who can see my stuff?” and click “Use Activity Log”
On your Activity Log page, click MORE underneath Comments to expand all Facebook sections. Click Friends. You can now browse all activities related to adding, accepting, and removing friends.
In your activity log, you can further tweak your privacy settings by choosing who can see your friend list as well as decide where your friend activity will show up. Click the respective icons in the top right of the Friends Activity Log and choose your settings. By deselecting every option for where your friend activity can show up, you can effectively friend someone and hide it from your status updates.
Unlike LinkedIn where you can send a personal message to explain why you want to connect with your friend request, Facebook doesn’t have this option. So relationship with people is key.
Expand Your Network
Start thinking outside of the box when it comes to growing your social network on Facebook. Every time you go to an event and meet with new people, be sure to ask them about connecting on Facebook. This is yet another way you can begin to massage a business relationship and stay within the confines of Facebook!
Want to discuss other avenues of expanding your network? Contact me today for a free 30 minute consultation!